1. When someone wrongs me, I:
talk it over with someone
confront the offender and attempt to explain my feelings, hoping we can work it out
don’t talk about it and let my anger and frustration fester inside me
refuse to acknowledge it and gloss over it

2. Are you able to forgive someone who has wronged you?
I find it difficult to forgive anyone who has seriously offended me
I find I can eventually forgive, but it takes time
I’d rather not talk about it
I try to work it out with my offender so I can move on with life

3. I get angry:
Almost never
Occasionally
Easily and frequently (several times a week)
Rarely

4. When I get angry, I:
Immediately blow up physically and even violently
Reflect on the root causes of my anger by myself or with a trusted person
Excuse myself from the situation for a cool down period
Get verbally abusive and take it out on those nearest me

5. When faced with a conflict or disagreement, I:
Find it easy to take sides
Take sides only if I feel strongly about it
Try my best to remain neutral and consider all sides
Avoid it like the plague

6. Do you do any volunteer work?
I rarely volunteer
I do volunteer work if it advances my personal goals and interests
I don’t volunteer at all
When I volunteer, I prefer work that benefits vulnerable people or addresses social justice issues

7. Do you donate money to charitable organizations?
I give often and generously
I don’t like sharing
I can't afford to share but wish I could
If I have a little extra, I might give some away

8. My work/career:
Makes me unhappy
It's okay and pays the bills
Aligns with my personal values of living non-violently
Presents an opportunity to model peaceful living to my colleagues

9. How I view the others:
I give others the benefit of the doubt
I compare myself to others and envy them for what they have that I don’t have
I try and understand others by putting myself in their shoes
I tend to judge other people by their actions

10. I would describe my relationship with my spouse/partner this way:
Okay, but could be better
Unhappy
We’ve always worked out our difficulties peaceably and are committed to each other for life
We work together at continuously improving our relationship

11. I would describe my relationship with my parents this way:
We have a loving relationship and are able to deal with conflict in healthy ways
We mostly get along
Tense at all times
We don’t see eye-to eye on many things

12. I would describe my relationship with my children this way:
We can work out our conflicts most of the time
We tolerate one another
We yell at each other a lot
We talk and share often about each others’ lives

13. I would describe my relationships with my co-workers this way:
As long as I keep to myself I’m okay
I try to be a positive influence in my relationships with co-workers
My coworkers have become my friends
There are a few difficult persons I try and avoid

14. I would describe my relationship with my friends this way:
My friendship circle is my support network and can be counted on in times of celebration and sadness
Friends? What are friends?
My friendships are mostly superficial
I have a several very close and trusted friends

15. I am more likely to treat strangers or new acquaintances:
Politely and respectfully
I greet them warmly and hospitably and think the best of them first
With cool reservation
Neutrally/with indifference

16. I tend to treat service people in restaurants, hotels, or stores this way:
I generally distrust them
I greet them, thank them, and treat them compassionately
I treat them according to their station in life
I am sometimes courteous

17. When I watch or read about human tragedy in the news:
I am emotionally unaffected
I don’t really care about what goes on around me
Some stories arouse emotions ranging from anger to compassion
I am likely to respond with a letter, donation, or volunteer help for a good cause

18. When challenged on my beliefs, I:
Respond openly and lovingly and encourage questions
Respond respectfully but remain firmly closed to other points of view
Respond vigorously and defensively
Quickly become argumentative, and may resort to name calling

19. I believe I can play a role in making the world a better place, if I:
see the need for change, but not let it lower my standard of living
have made at least one change to my lifestyle in the last year that I hope will in some small way make the world a more just place
consider ways to change my systemic set of habits and lifestyle
let the world worry about itself

20. When making a purchase, a decision, or acting on a personal desire:
I would think about how it might affect those closest to me
I wouldn’t give any thought to the implications
The effect on others may or may not cross my mind
I would consider the impact locally (on my community) and global

21. How do you feel about someone who has committed a crime?
More people should get involved in victim-offender reconciliation programs and community activities that reduce the need for crime
Society needs to address the root causes of crime, but there’s not much I can do personally
Every situation should be handled with love, including the person who broke into my home
An eye for an eye and a tooth for a tooth

22. What my faith teaches about conflict:
Revenge is an individual right, up to and including violence against anyone who has offended me or my faith
Violence is almost never the preferred option for dealing with conflict
Some form of treating others as we would wish to be treated, but not many of us behave that way
A desire for all people to live non-violently

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